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Men Who Can't Love: How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart

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This book saved my life.
I wish I had read this book years ago!
Devastated? Confused? Blaming yourself? Stop, buy this book, and you WILL feel better
I thought my relationship was unique...
Interesting, but....

Men Who Can't Love: How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart
Steven Carter
Manufacturer: M. Evans and Company, Inc.
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Binding: Paperback

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What Smart Women Know

ASIN: 0871319993

Book Description

This is the classic relationship book that started them all, now available in paperback. It informs women of the warning signs of commitmentphobia, and explains how to avoid heartbreak.

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This book saved my life........2007-03-18

I had been with a man for 10 years (on-again, off-again), who without a doubt, was a textbook case, as noted in this book. It is a godsend. I kept thinking that it was me. That I was imagining all of the things he was doing, like disappearing in time for my birthday, or Christmas, or Valentine's Day. This book outlined the behavior of men like this to the letter. Ladies out there: It is not you! When you read this book you will see that this is indeed a serious emotional disorder that these men cannot change without years and years of therapy. In the case with my ex, he had been traumatized in childhood by his mother passing away early on and being molested by a female cousin at the age of 7. He went on to marry a woman and stay married for 10 years before she got out. To hear him tell it, she was the bad guy. I bought it for awhile, but now I know better. I met him shortly after their divorce. Outwardly, he was fine, shaky but fine. He was pleasant, funny and nice to be around. We had so many things in common. Spending time with him was wonderful, as we had so many of the same interests. I was totally in love with this man. And he said he was in love with me. But deep within, this was a very damaged individual. I made allowances for his shortcomings. He started smoking marijuana more often, but insisted it was nothing. And when he became emotionally abusive, and started sleeping with several other women behind my back, I knew it was time to move on. Cheating on me with other women was just one part of it. But that was the least, because I know that none of them would ever get anything more emotionally from him than I did. The book shows you that they do this to 'create distance' from you. They put out behavior that they know is so repugnant to you so that you will leave. Therefore, no commitment, see? The 'I Love You's' I got came from someone so damaged. He is out of my life forever now. Because I know that I cannot cure him. I stayed for a long time thinking that if I was just more kind and loving and patient that he would change. I know now that I was wrong. And exposing myself to this behavior was slowly killing me and diminishing me as a woman. Get this book today. For me, it gave me the strength to move on and also, it was as if someone turned the lights on in my world for the first time in a very long time. I thank the authors of this book. They are a blessing.

I wish I had read this book years ago!.......2007-01-23

I don't normally spend the time to write a review after I've finished a book. This book, however, was very different. It helped me more than any other book has in the past. I picked it up on accident about 5 days after a very bad break-up and read it cover to cover in one night. Before reading this book, I was extremely confused about what had happend to my relationship. I was extremely depressed, wallowing in self pity, and blaming myself for everything I could have done differently to save my 2 year relationship. This book, and this book alone, literally turned everything around for me. It described, in hauntingly familiar detail, my entire relationship. It helped me understand what had happened to us and why it wasn't my fault. It helped me understand that it wasn't my body, my face, the way I dressed, or anything I did that made him reject me. It also helped me understand why he pushed me to the point where I was the one who had to break it off and be left with the guilt of doing so. Every woman should read this book so she's aware of this type of guy. If you're unfortunate like me and wait until the bitter end, it will still help you more than you could ever imagine. Well worth its price in gold.

Devastated? Confused? Blaming yourself? Stop, buy this book, and you WILL feel better.......2007-01-06

Just about everyone has a crazy relationship at some point, and most people genuinely are confused about what transpired. They blame themselves and spend years in therapy (along with thousands of dollars), and they never really understand what happened.

This book saved my sanity. I won't even go into detail. Just know that the tears will quickly stop, and you'll have epiphanies right and left. Those things he convinced you he did not say, when in fact you KNOW he did, those moments where you are being pursued by the man of your dreams, only to surrender and find he's gone AWOL...it's ALL explained in detail.

Please don't blame yourself, unless you don't read this book and make the same mistake again.

I thought my relationship was unique..........2006-12-31

I find comfort and sadness in knowing that my relationship was not unique.

I was involved with a man who was much older than me and had different religious views. I was an obvious choice for a man with commitment phobia! I was not originally won over by him. Because of our differences, he had to purse me for a long time (about six years, on and off)before I entertained the idea of us really being a couple. In the last year of our relationship I FINALLY began to accept that this guy might actually love me and I was willing to make sacrifices to make it work. It seems like almost as soon as I decided this, he began backing away. I started finding emails and phone messages from other women. He hurt me and disappointed me time and time again. During the last month of our relationship, he decided he would go to counseling to find out why he was hurting someone he loved so much. (Completely his idea, by the way) I thought I finally had made a break through! He never really told me what he talked about in counseling, only that he decided that he was not going to hurt people anymore. Though it was over for a while, he officially ended it three weeks later. (And didn't go back to counseling) He said he loved me more than any other woman, but he wanted to date others in addition to me. HUH? Our relationship, as he described it, was simple and healthy. He said "I love you, but I can't do the things that love requires". He never blamed me. He said I was perfect. When this book said that "our perfection scares them", I knew I was reading a book about MY relationship.

The book was not a miracle for me. Perhaps it's because I read it VERY shortly after my break up. It didn't make my pain go away instantly, but it did help me understand that I wasn't alone and help me understand a little more about the man I fell in love with. And as a friend told me, the more time you spend reading the less time you spend crying.

Good luck to everyone in their search for happiness.

Interesting, but...........2006-12-10

What the author seems to ignore, and women always ignore, is that a "commitment" to a woman these days has serious consequences. Like it or not, most marraiges end in divorce, with the wife usually initiating the divorce and using her legal power to strip a man of everything he has or hopes to have.

Yet, if a man balks at exposign himself to such a risk, he is "commitmentphobic", as if his rational fears are somehow irrational and the sign of a mental problem. ALL men know many other men who have been raked over the coals in divorce court, and it's never a pretty picture. The desire to survive is one of the strongest we have, and it is only natural for a man to try and protect himself from almost certain financial and emotional ruin.

Indeed, I would venture to say that any man willing to risk marraige to a woman these days is surely in need of professional help. In simple terms, any man who marries any woman in the west must surely be insane.

Men Who Can't be Faithful: Build a Better, More Intimate Relationship-Based on New Trust

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Excellent book!!
A must read for men who try to change but can't

Men Who Can't be Faithful: Build a Better, More Intimate Relationship-Based on New Trust
Carol Botwin
Manufacturer: Grand Central Publishing
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Mass Market Paperback

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ASIN: 0446356239

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Excellent book!!.......1999-10-25

This is the most comprehensive book I've read on the subject of promiscuous males. I appreciate Carol's well-balanced research on the subject. Her compassion for both men and women on this subject is astounding. Most books on the subject of promisicuity solely blame the female partner for her male's sexual choices/addiction.

I originally purchased this book during the mid to late 80's and still have the original copy. I took a chance and loaned it to my best friend who was devastated by her husband's affair with a close female relative. I gave her this book as a last resort since I normally don't loan out my favorite books. After reading it completely, she returned it to me. Some years afterward, she indicated to me that she (half-heartedly, I assume) planned to do something terrible to her cheating husband, her female relative and herself. So I think Botwin's book may have prevented a triple tragedy. For sure, it helped me feel better! Thanks Carol.

A must read for men who try to change but can't.......1999-02-27

I highly recommend this book to men who have gone astray and are trying to change their ill ways for the better. This book gave me the confidence to know why I was doing what I was doing. Rather than castigate men, the author tries to logically explain to the female and also male reader that having an affair, though bad, is not the end of the world. Life can be repaired and this book is part of the cure to remedy sins of commission from the past and present.

Men Who Can't Love: When A Man's Fear Make Him Run from Commitment

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Men Who Can't Love: When A Man's Fear Make Him Run from Commitment
Steven Carter , and Julia Sokol
Manufacturer: M. Evans and Company, Inc.
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Hardcover
ASIN: B000O6I1PQ

MEN WHO CAN'T LOVE WHEN A MAN'S FEAR MAKES HIM RUN FROM COMMITMENT ( AND WHAT A SMART WOMAN CAN DO ABOUT IT)

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MEN WHO CAN'T LOVE WHEN A MAN'S FEAR MAKES HIM RUN FROM COMMITMENT ( AND WHAT A SMART WOMAN CAN DO ABOUT IT)
Steven / Sokol, Julia Carter
Manufacturer: M.Evans and Co.
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Hardcover
ASIN: B000H1T7ZQ

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MEN WHO CAN' T LOVE
CARTER STEVEN & JULIA SOKOL
Manufacturer: Berkley Books
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback
ASIN: B000NHWBEI

Men Who Can't Be Faithful: How to Pick Up the Pieces When He's Breaking Your Heart

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Our Society gives credit to Men..it's so wonder they wander.

Men Who Can't Be Faithful: How to Pick Up the Pieces When He's Breaking Your Heart
Carol Botwin
Manufacturer: Warner Books
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Hardcover

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Our Society gives credit to Men..it's so wonder they wander........2001-11-06

I truly feel to gain a more '''LOGICAL''' viewpoint toward why?And The Question is Why? One must read everything concerning you as a Human Being. And Questions will be answered through the intellectual and not so much the emotional. Otherwise, there would surely be alot more depression and tradegy in both men and women. This book is such an enlightenment to women especially. Because we have a tendency to blame ourselves for our man's behavior. We as women can learn alot from this book because we can see we may be creating our own stories here. Yet at the same time we as women must not take full responsibility in having to always be everything to our men. To where we blame ourself for his behavior.This book is alot about men and their feelings of creating more than they can handle and not being able to figure it all out. So I think men should read this book. Sex is not always the issue here.Women need to read this book to keep their self-esteem intact and also realize our own reasons for entertaining and continuing relationships with men who choose to be complusive. Knowledge is power and we as humans have many tendencies but we also have brains.We can choose to Learn to Love through understanding why we do what we do???? Please read this book or just read books that will help us through life. Love is what touches us all. And if we can learn to love our mates and friends I think reading will help us gain more than money can buy. And P.S. keep us from losing our self-esteem and dignity. We wouldn't want to kill someone would we??? ,.) Sincerely..PrincessColleen

Men Who Can't Love: When a Man's Fear Makes Him Run from Commitment

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Men Who Can't Love: When a Man's Fear Makes Him Run from Commitment
Steven; Sokol, Julia Carter
Manufacturer: M Evans & Co
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Hardcover
ASIN: B000O1TZQ0

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Men Who Can't Love
Steven Carter; Julia Sokol
Manufacturer: Berkley
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback
ASIN: B000R0VP70

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MEN WHO CAN'T LOVE
Steven and Julia Sokol Carter
Manufacturer: Berkley Books
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback
ASIN: B000H2AB5K

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